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Ever wonder where the energy from all those old traumas you suffered went to? For all too many of us, we are still carrying them around. Feel all of those tight muscles? Much of that is from going into "freeze" mode when we suffered traumas where we couldn't fight or run. For example, seeing a truck about to hit you in your rearview mirror, or an alcoholic parent about to do the same when you are a child.

They also go into our nervous system, leaving people stuck in a mode of chronic adrenaline release and exhaustion. In more severe cases, the person gets emotionally shut down.

So how do you release these old energies, so you can be free of them?

There are several techniques that can be quite powerful. I will discuss a few of these in an upcoming article. But I want to start with a critical area. Forgiveness.

You may think I am speaking about forgiving others. That's part of it. But sometimes even harder and more important is forgiving ourselves. This can be much easier than you ever imagined.

I am honored to have a guest join me in this article in how to do this easily; my dear friend Jon Lovgren, author of the new book "The Magic Words." (Caution: there are several books with similar titles, so be sure you get the one by him.)

His book even has an article written by his daughter and how it made her fibromyalgia go away.

This book may be the best $3.50 you ever spend!

Ever been in Hawaii and noted the Aloha spirit? This stems in part from ancient Hawaiian tradition. Using four simple sentences, repeated to yourself during periods of discomfort, can be magic for so many things that trouble people.

Quite remarkable. And free. You can easily do the technique on your own.

You will be surprised at how effective it is!

The ancient Hawai'ian practice of ho'oponopono helps heal Fibromyalgia!

By Jon Lovgren

The Magic Words book by Jon Lovgren

What is ho'oponopono? It is an ancient Hawai'ian practice of forgiveness. It teaches us that we are 100 percent responsible for everything in our lives-always have been, and always will be. This does not mean that it is our fault, or that we should blame ourselves. It simply means we have the ability to change our situation. So simply, in your mind, say to yourself:

I love you

I am sorry

Please forgive me

Thank you

That is it! That is all there is to it. Just say those four statements to yourself repeatedly; the order does not matter. Repeat them until they become second nature, automatic. The more you continue to say ho'oponopono, the more you will see your life change.

"Wait! You are telling me that saying those four statements over and over can heal fibromyalgia? How is that possible?"

Yes. Practicing ho'oponopono at the deepest levels, we work through our memories to find the cause of our ailments-in this case, the cause of fibromyalgia-and once we clean and clear those memories, the ailment, heals. Ho'oponopono works with the cause, not the symptom; the symptom helps guide us to the cause.

The process of practicing ho'oponopono at the deepest levels begins with two key questions:

How did I create this for myself?

And why?

Ho'oponopono is always, and only, about and to self-never about anyone or anything else. And since we are each 100 percent responsible for everything in our lives, we had a part in creating our pain, our discomfort, and/or our dis-ease.

When we accept that we created it for ourselves (whatever "it" is), then we can love ourselves, apologize for creating it, forgive ourselves, and find gratitude in the lessons learned. This is when we begin the healing process. Sometimes the healing is instantaneous, however, some ailments like fibromyalgia, have so many components that it can take time to get to the cause.

Unexpressed feelings settle in the body in various places. For example, fear tends to settle in the stomach and anger tends to settle in the liver. As they accumulate, they start to spread out and create energy blocks in the body.

Often, there are numerous other ailments that accompany fibromyalgia, for example: agoraphobia (fear of places or situations that might cause panic or embarrassment), anxiety/panic disorder, etc. Rather than attempt to heal fibromyalgia in one fell-swoop, it is better to heal each of the contributing factors. We begin with agoraphobia.

How do we heal agoraphobia using ho'oponopono? We focus on the reasons for the fears. When we do so, we realize that it is usually about the future; it is what I call "future-trippin'" and it just makes the fear worse. Ho'oponopono brings us back to the present moment. In Carissa's case, as soon as she began to think about the idea of having a panic attack, she said ho'oponopono over and over, like a mantra:

I love you

I am sorry

Please forgive me

Thank you

When we find ourselves thinking about the past or the future, we need to realize that it is just our imagination, yet we have 100 percent control over it. When we catch ourselves starting to spiral down a rabbit hole, simply say ho'oponopono and it will bring us to the present. Remember that it is only our imagination, and we can begin to think about something that brings us happiness and joy.

My experience with ho'oponopono over the past decade has shown me that physical ailments have an emotional component, usually forgotten in our conscious minds, but still alive and well in our unconscious minds. In every case, when we healed the emotional memory of the cause of the physical pain, the physical pain went away completely, usually immediately, but may take longer in cases like fibromyalgia.

When people contract fibromyalgia, it means that the unreleased or blocked energy does not accumulate in one area, but it is widespread and has elements that attach to different parts of the body. It is as if people with fibromyalgia have an emotional colander, and the unexpressed feelings are broken up into smaller parts and settle throughout the body.

So instead of all the anger going to the liver, some of it gets blocked and presents as pain in the joints and muscles, and the fascia becomes saturated and inflamed. It is the same with sadness, disappointment, and frustration. Any of the lower vibrational feelings will find the closest place to settle within the body. It is often a significant trauma in life that causes these blockages to start.

When we find ourselves suddenly in a major life change, we can be so busy figuring out what to do and how to go from there, especially if we have to do it alone, that we are pushed into circumstances that do not allow us to take the time to grieve the losses. The feelings settle in the body in various locations. Then, once we get some modicum of getting settled into our new lives, we notice the pain and the lethargy, and we chalk them up to being tired and sore.

Once we learn to practice ho'oponopono diligently and consistently, we come to a point where we no longer cringe to escape the pain, but instead, we dive into it to find out what caused it in the first place. We know that when we heal that, we will no longer feel the discomfort.

To get started on your healing now. Simply repeat ho'oponopono as often as you can, especially when you are feeling pain or discomfort. You do not have to believe it or feel it, you simply have to say it and it starts working.

I love you

I am sorry

Please forgive me

Thank you

For a deeper understanding of ho'oponopono and detailed explanations as to how and why it works, as well as case studies for various chronic ailments, please check out my book: The Magic Words, by Jon Lovgren

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Jacob E Teitelbaum, MD

Jacob Teitelbaum, MD, is a board certified internist and Medical Director of the national Fibromyalgia and Fatigue Centers and Chronicity. He is author of the popular free iPhone application "Cures A-Z," and author of the best-selling books

Dr. Teitelbaum knows CFS/fibromyalgia as an insider — he contracted CFS when he was in medical school and had to drop out for a year to recover. In the ensuing 25 years, he has dedicated his career to finding effective treatments.